One of the hardest things about being a girl is our tendency to compare ourselves with other girls. This is a scenario that happens way too often for me: I lay out the perfect outfit the night before and then wake up early to straighten my hair and do my makeup. I walk out of my front door feeling great until I see someone else that I think is more put together, or skinnier, or has better hair. At this point, I decide that I thought I looked great but I actually look ridiculous and I walk around the rest of the day feeling like a fool. Instead of going about my day looking for ways to love and serve other people, I spend it thinking about myself.
It doesn’t even have to be looks. Girls spend a crazy amount of time feeling inferior because they see someone else that is more popular, more musical, more athletic, or more spiritual. Common sense tells us that comparison is futile because every girl is so different. Of course, we all know on a surface level that each of us is talented and beautiful in different ways. Some girls are awesome singers or public speakers and perhaps their talents are more obvious than those who are great at serving behind the scenes. So why do we compare?
There is no real answer except for we live in a broken world. Jealousy is a sin that a lot of women seem to especially struggle with. Praise the Lord who gives us freedom from our sins! When the temptation to compare overtakes me, these are some of my favorite verses to remember:
Proverbs 14:30 – A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot. (ESV)
1 Corinthians 13:4-5a – Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. (ESV)
Comparing ourselves to others is ultimately unloving and it will make us miserable! A surefire way to beat jealousy is to ask the Lord to fill your heart with love for the person that the feelings involve. If we waste our time thinking about other people, we will not have time to develop the amazing gifts that God has given us. Next time you see a girl that you think outshines you, take the focus off yourself and celebrate that we all can serve God and each other in different ways.